Guest Post by Charlene Happel…

When “letting go” shows up on my to-do list, the idea auto-starts an old tape inside my head…“but won’t I need that?”  I usually mean “need” in the sense of needing a very important organ, like the heart, the brain, etc.

I’m pretty sure I’m gonna NEED that.

So, it will come as no surprise that this particular mindset of letting go initiates resistance.  You know, the kind of resistance that is spelled in all caps – RESISTANCE.  Up go the roadblock, a brick wall, and the barrier stronger than all known blasting elements in this universe.  Our well-intended action item of letting go has now generated enough resistance to propel a rocket into space.

Now What?

Well, I propose an alternative perspective.  Maybe the releasing is actually giving you something rather than taking something away. Maybe, you are giving yourself a sensational gift, the gift of liberation from the cords that bind you.  When you think of it as abandonment, then the cords feel like lifelines.  The fear translates into, if I cut these cords, I will have no lifelines.  I will be isolated.  Now you have a logical reason to NOT let go.  If I let go I will be isolated AND missing a key thing that I need to survive.  We now believe that letting go = isolation (death).

Why was I supposed to let go again?

Enter a new prospective…

Your natural state is to be without cords, to be liberated, to be free. So what to do? Cut the cords and know that you are not meant to have cords.  You are meant to be free.

The real truth is that these parts or pieces, anything you still need or that is part of your highest good, will come back to you.  Not only will it come back to you, but also it will come back in the way that serves you now.  From this perspective, we realize that we are binding ourselves with cords from the past.  Those cords that we thought were lifelines, tie us to a frame of reference that no longer exists.  While these parts may have been perfect in some other moment, it was a moment that has past.  We may still need these parts, but we don’t need them from a moment that has past, we need them in the moment that is now.  In order for that to happen, they can’t be bound to us and we cannot be bound to them.

So, we cut our cords and as we let go, we are free and those parts that are meant to come back to us will come back in forms that are perfect for this moment.  So, I invite you to let go, be free, be present, and be who you are meant to be now.  If you take up this invitation, know that I am right there with you.

With you as my witness, I’m cutting cords and choosing liberation.  I choose to be free.

Charlene is an intuition and money-mindset coach.  She helps women ignite their intuition superpowers, reveal their unique voice, and transform their relationship with money.  She is launching several great programs this spring, with a teleseminar series starting very soon.  Sign up for her updates at www.charlenehappel.com.

Here’s a confession: I sometimes compare my success to others and berate myself for not measuring up. In fact, there’s a woman who is a SUPERSTAR in my industry who makes me secretly sick with jealousy. She’s a coach, speaker and best-selling author. She’s cool, funky (even pretty!) and gets invited to speak at awesome places. I love her and I hate her – I’m a self-loathing groupie.

Here’s an even more embarrassing confession. I stalk her Google Alerts and almost every day she shows up somewhere on the web. I have her book on my Kindle but can’t bring myself to read it, just in case I’ll never measure up. Argh – she’s doing so well, it makes me want to vomit!

Can you relate? Do you get jealous of other women’s success? Maybe a friend who is effortlessly healthy, has a great job, a rocking business or a fabulous husband? It’s ok to be competitive and use that as fuel to create success in your own life, but if your jealousy only reflects back your own perceived failures, you’re doing damage to yourself.

Jealousy Is A Clear Sign…

Jealousy is a clear sign that cannot be ignored. It shoves your own unfulfilled desires in your face and it will continue showing up until you it and give yourself permission to be exactly where you are on your path to superstardom.

Everyone has their own journey to success. Comparison and self-judgement sets up a clear message to the Universe that I’m not good enough and what good can you possibly attract with that self-belief? No amount of good fortune will ever be enough.

Ultimate Self-Care

The ultimate self-care is being as supportive and encouraging to yourself as you would for your best friend and as adoring as your most dedicated fan. A loving friend would say “You can do that too!” and the president of your fan club would say “We love your work!” even if your last project was a bomb.

Decide to become your own most blindly obsessed groupie and love absolutely everything that you do. Start with a list of everything you’ve accomplished this year and take the time to celebrate. Send yourself fan mail (or at least acknowledge how awesome you already are)!

The Universe is Conspiring…

Become a reverse paranoid! Believe that everything in the Universe is conspiring to help you create a wonderful life, including jealousy because it’s a reminder that it’s always possible to dream bigger. But nobody can really compete with you.

So here’s what I’m going to do; every time I see another success story coming from my “nemesis”, I’m going to take it as a sign that something equally exciting is just around the corner for me.

A true superstar expects the best and graciously receives compliments so give them to yourself… daily. It’s wonderful to be successful and have hordes of fans loving everything you do, but start with just one fan – yourself.

Additionally when I’m nourishing my body with healthy food, lots of water, sunshine and a daily green juice, it’s like that evil jealousy goes away. I’m genuinely happy for other people because I’m honestly happy inside. I can appreciate my own unique talents.

Imagine what you could create if you were utterly in your own corner – your biggest super fan ever!

Denise Duffield-Thomas teaches women how to be outrageously successful in life, love and business. She is a Success Coach and author of ‘Lucky Bitch‘.

Get a free copy of ‘5 Manifesting Secrets of a Lucky Bitch’ at www.deniseduffieldthomas.com

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